Part 1
Never stand up a date. If you must cancel a date, do so with as much notice as possible. Always
remember that the person on the other end of the phone has hopes and feelings and should be treated
with all respect. To do otherwise will demonstrate arrogance and selfishness on your part.
Don’t be late for a date. Plan ahead and prepare for as many contingencies as possible such as traffic
or getting stuck at work. If something does happen, call as soon as you can to let them know. As a
date, even waiting five minutes at a table can seem like an eternity if you are nervous and just spent
two hours getting ready.
Never, ever, ever, get involved with someone who is married. If they are willing to cheat with you, at
some point they will cheat on you. There is no future in it and the complications which may arise are
countless and can even be deadly.
Do not date the same type of people who have caused you heartache and misery in the past. The key to
productive dating is to learn from your past mistakes and then change your dating habits so you will not
repeat them. If you keep feeling “chemistry” with the wrong type of people then it may be time to
start chasing after people with whom your mind says yes even though your heart may say otherwise.
Do not try and contact someone more than once a day unless they respond. Always avoid being
desperate or seeming desperate. If they like you they will respond; even if they are trying to play some
type of dating game by waiting a couple of days.
Try not to be too available all the time. A busy person is frequently an attractive person as they seem
active, energetic and show promise of being someone fun and engaging to date. In the beginning, there
is nothing wrong with being “out of town” for a couple of days or not being able to meet for a little
while. You can also structure a real busy day where you just happen to find time on short notice to
connect with them for 30 min or an hour.
Do not give out personal information such as your home address on a first date. A predator can be very
skilled at fooling someone or playing to their hopes and dreams.
If you are a smoker, try and avoid doing so for the first couple of dates. This may even mean scheduling
shorter events together. If you really think you found the right person and they despise smoking, then
this way, you still have the option of quitting on the sly with them never being the wiser. You may find
that you can perform great feats when confronted with true love.
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